Well, it's kinda silly for me to even discuss this, being that I'm an old married lady, but I thought that the premise was really pretty cool.
Apparently, there is a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that discusses if intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. And, there have been instances where the two strangers have, actually, fallen in love and begun committed relationships. I thought that the premise was really pretty cool - the questions as profiled in the NYTimes are here - and so I thought I'd ask myself some of them. There are three sets of them, and so I thought I'd break it into three posts.
For edification and clarity.
Maybe I'll fall in love with myself. Although there's NO WAY IN THE WORLD I'm staring into my own eyes for four minutes. That's just crazy talk.
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? Neil DeGrasse Tyson, Diana Gabaldon, Johnny Cash, my dad, my husband and my son. And a friend. Mostly to help me remember all the fantastical stuff that goes down.
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way? No, I don't think so. At one point in time, I did want to be famous, but I think now I'd just rather be happy. And I think that those two concepts are exclusive of each other.
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why? YES, times a thousand. Why? Why wouldn't you? I mean, for real - you can't tell me that everyone just bam! has the right words come out of their mouth all the time. Not buying it, not for a hot minute.
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you? Sleep in late, have eggs benedict and fresh fruit and a French Press of really fantastic coffee for breakfast. Get a massage and a mani pedi, go spend time at the bookstore, go out for a super cheesy and calorically laden lunch. Take a nap. Spend time at the gun range. Meet friends for drinks and dinner, go to a movie or a fun show, and go to bed.
I am so boring. :)
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else? I sing to myself every damned day. I try, as much as I can, to avoid singing to other people.
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? Mind. Definitely. Imagine how silly you'd look as a 90 year old with a young person's body.
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die? Brain cancer. Breast cancer. Alzheimers.
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. This is a tough one, because on the surface, we appear to have nothing in common. I'll have to think on it. I think, maybe, we are both kind people - no, he's much more kind than I am. Hmmmm. This one is no joke. I'll come back to it.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? My health. The ability to read. Freedom to do what I want.
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? Oh, hahahahahahhaaaaa - nope. No way. Not touching this one. Are you HIGH, Clairee?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible. I couldn't do this in four months. It's not that I have sooooo much to talk about - it's just that I can't seem to tell a story without rambling.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? I would love to be able to sing. No, wait. I'd love to be able to play the piano really, really well.