Age is only a state of mind

(Swiped from Michele)

Most of us know of at least one May-December romance. Some people say that age should not matter as much as maturity or experience. Do you agree? What is the biggest age difference that you could accept for yourself?

I've said before that The Hubster is 15 years older than I am.  In many aspects, we are similar in age.  I act older - always have - and he's pretty juvenile - can you tell we had a fight this morning?  My mom is only 6 years older than my husband, and yet they are light years apart.  People think my mother is in her late sixties or so, and that my husband is in his late thirties.

What is kind of weird to me is that I'm 35, my step mother is in her 40's, my stepdaughters are in their late 20's, and I have a half sister the same age as my daughters AND my husband's grandkids. 

Whew.  We have a family vine, not a tree. 

Comments

[NinaKaye]

My husband is only 4 years older than I am. I don't think age matters that much. My niece (age 17) is about a week away from having a baby and the father is 25 (I think). I know he's old enough that we hung out in high school...that kind of freaks me out a little. Other than those two, I don't really know any couples that have more than 10 years difference. Of course, the older you get, the less the difference matters.

[m`lynn]

I think it does matter, in a way. The Bookman is 16 years older than I am, so we're always operating on a sort of cognitive dissonance. Discussions about retirement, childbearing, money, and health care are all approached from radically different perspectives-- mine as a woman who's just turned 31, his from the perspective of a guy rapidly approaching 50. It was a lot worse when we first married-- the difference between 18 and 34 is greater than the difference between 31 and 47 . . . but it's still a marked difference that impacts our lives.

Less exes and family to worry about, though, as we're the black sheep of both respective families. Cuts down on the vine or shrub effect. :-)

[lucy]

My ex-husband is 16 months older than I am, and my former fiance is 25 years older.

Obviously, the difference in ages didn't mean squat; they're both exes.

I did one of those "hold old is your inner child?" internet quizzes, and my "inner child" is supposedly 11 years older than I am now. Which explains a lot, I think...

My brother-in-law is six years older than my sister and they seem to almost be from different generations. My sister-in-law is six years older than my brother (strange how that worked out!) and they seem perfectly in-tune with each other.

I think it all depends on the individual couples. I know that I was closer in spirit in many things to the man I loved who is almost eligible for social security than I was to the man who turns 40 this fall.

[Erin]

My ex-stepmother was like 15 or so years younger then my dad but she had a daughter the same age as me. Their marriage failed for many reasons I'm not sure if their age differance helped to create some of the reasons or not.

[Rachel]

My uncle married someone 6m younger than me, but to me she's always seemed more mature, and he's not.

My parents ended up marrying people where the woman in each marriage is 5y older, but it works v well for them - they think a lot alike.

My husband and I are about 3 months apart, but that's just a coincidence. I think that every person is different, and what is important is people being happy together.