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Carmen, I needed this so much tonight. Thank you.


Before I had kids I was extremely fit! I ran everyday and did weight training. After kids, not so much! I really slacked and as a result felt miserable. This past summer I finally did it, made a commitment to get back to it. I run on the weekend and during the week use my elliptical almost every night and have been tuning into Tracy Anderson stuff on U-Tube. It's free! I feel so much more like my old self. It's only been about two months but I see a difference and I feel stronger. No matter how tired I am at the end of the day I just go for it, so glad!


"Some of you are afraid of failing and so you won't even try."
I sometimes wonder if this is at that core of my not even trying.

I got into great shape between the birth of my second and third children, lost some after my third and have completely given up after my fourth. I alternate between being in denial about the shape that I am in, and being angry at and disgusted with myself.

There's all of the, "eating right takes effort, working out takes time," but I think there is a healthy dose of, what if I try, and nothing...? Thank you for a thought-provoking post.


thanks, Carmen. after 6 kids and 100 extra pounds, I ofter hate myself and think I will never be fit. you make me think maybe I can.

Headless Mom

I'm so glad that the event was everything you needed it to be, and more. I know how hard you work and how strong you are and it's really nice to see you believe it for once!


Beautiful post! Really, just wanted I needed. Thank you for taking the time to say this.


Thank you.


Thank you for this.

I work out every day. Every day my work outs make me cry because I get so frustrated that I can't keep up. Seriously. I cry. That in itself makes me mad. I want to just see it as a challenge to overcome but sometimes it's nothing but disheartening.

But I keep doing it. I want to see results faster than I am, but I AM seeing them. Super duper slowly (is this because I'm looking down the barrel at 50 in a couple of years?), but I am. I have been working out, hard, 5 days a week for two months and I have lost not even one pound. This is ALL kinds of frustrating. But I'm a little stronger. I have a tiny bit of definition showing in my arms. A tiny bit, mind you, but I know it's there. My endurance seems a bit higher.

I still overeat and eat junk-y stuff that I have no business even thinking about. I crave sugar like nobody's business. Maybe that's why I'm not losing the pounds.

Anyway, just wanted to sort of get that out there, and thank you for this post because it is very very encouraging! You are truly a source of inspiration for me! Thank you.

bama Cheryl

Great post. Thank you!


Here's my story: Summer of 2010 I threw out my back for the 2nd time in 3 years and was flat on my back, unable to walk and completely out of my mind in pain for 2 weeks. My husband brought me to my Chiro and he basically told me no more walking and work on my core, as my hamstrings were super tight and my body was just giving out. Too much of one exercise ain't good.

So having never formally exercised in my entire life (since high school) I signed up for a Barre Fusion (ballet, yoga, pilates) at a cool looking studio. I started going once and week. The classes were an hour & 15 minutes. First class I thought I was going to die. I fell over doing a side plank. I could only hold 2 lb weights. But I kept at it. Little by little, once a week I endured this humiliation. After about 6 months of plodding along, I noticed I was getting stronger and I upped my weights and I added another class during the week. I noticed that my body didn't ache when I woke up in the am. Mind you, I still walk about 15 miles a week, but I don't do it as much as I used to.

I haven't lost any weight, but my butt is more defined, my arms are stronger and my stomach is flatter. It's even brought out a competitive streak in me - I want to hold my plank the longest in the class! So I totally agree Carmen, start something, no matter how small and stick with it. I just turned 45 last Sunday. If I could turn into a jock at this age, anybody can!


I'm hypothyroid and have been working out hard for over a year now. (and tracking my calories) I've only managed to lose a total of 8lbs.. In a year. I've been feeling pretty depressed about that lately. About how I work hard and though I am more toned there's not a noticeable difference in my appearance. I guess I need to be more self positive. Thank you for this post. I'll keep trying and someday maybe I'll get there....


Thanks for the great post! I was in shape & loved working out through my mid-20's, then I met the man I would marry, and his lifestyle was completely different. I gained more and more weight, and now at the age of 43, need to lose more than 100 pounds. It seems over-whelming to think of the total, so I'm trying to think of it in smaller increments. My blood pressure is also now high for the first time in my life & I have got to be motivated to change, for myself and for my daughter.


have you thought about being a fitness trainer? sounds like you would be a good fit strong, mature, go getter, energetic, motivational...


3 kids in 6 years (6, 3 1/2 and 22 months) and I'm running the NYC Marathon on November 6th. I"m doing it for charity but if you'd told me I'd be able to run 26.2 miles this time last year I'd have said you were out of your mind.


What an awesome and inspiring post. Thank you.


Wow - I just realized that apparently I've been reading you for 6 years now! Your weight loss & fitness story is always an inspiration - WTG on taking it off and keeping it off and I'm sure there are several 20-somethings who see you at the gym & are amazed. Don't sell yourself short!


I needed to hear this tonight. I'm pregnant and have a 2 year old. And work full time. And... I have such a laundry list of reasons that I don't have time or energy or motivation. But when you really get down to it, I need to do this. It will make me feel better. I will be a better mom and spouse. I think I'll start tonight and take a page out of your book and tell noone (except of course, all these random people who read the comments, lol). I'm going to save your post for when I need to read it again. Thank you!!

Stephanie ODea

"Love yourself enough to try."
beautiful. you are wonderful.


"Some of you are afraid of failing and so you won't even try."

As a kid, though I was very athletic, I had my weaknesses, and this statement was me in spades; I would just shut down. Now, I am like you with the personal goals...one more this, a little longer that, and while I don't *really* care how I measure up to others, it sure is great when I have the occasion to realize that I'm not only doing good compared to myself, but just plain doing good! Everyone will get that feeling, if they're really trying at something, at some point. Congrats and thanks for sharing. And remember this day the next time, and every next time, you may feel as if you're falling short.


Thank you - I love this. Before kids, I was thin, fit, and worked out a lot. That was 9 years ago - and sometimes I'm almost paralyzed in fear of what will happen when I get back into shape - what will all the extra skin look like? You inspire me - not only have you accomplished the monumental task of losing a lot of weight by changing your lifestyle to that of healthier eating, balancing your role of wife and mother with taking care of yourself, and exercise, you have also kept the lifestyle for six years. You look awesome! Your body looks great! I can look at you and think - she once was where I am (with more kids) and I can go where she is. My body has changed - gravity, pregnancy, and breastfeeding have changed it, but not that much. What is really changing it is 60 or 70 too many pounds and unbalanced eating and lifestyle. I love how real you are. Thank you for sharing.

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  • Carmen Staicer is a whirlwind of energy and execution, who never sleeps and drinks way too much coffee. She works from home as Social Media Programs Manager for SheKnows, and is the mom to six kids, most of whom play instruments, sing or dance and all of whom are much smarter than she will ever be. In other words, her house is never ever quiet or still. A concentration of asthma, food allergies, spectrum disorders and learning disabilities means that she spends an awful lot of time second guessing herself and Dr. Googling, as well as learning to cook everything the family might like to eat. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, boxing (she has her Black Belt in Muay Thai), sleeping, exploring coffee shops, photography, ballet class and cooking. She excels in being a smart mouth and has her major in sarcasm, with a dual minor in BS studies and avoiding laundry.