You guys are slam up funny. I loved reading the answers to your questions! Here's mine:
1- What was the last thing you ate? And had to drink? Parmesan Garlic Pita Chips and Lemon Propel Zero with double the water.
2 - What was the last movie you saw? Lincoln. I loved it, but I should never ever ever go to a movie that STARTS at 10:15. I'm officially an old person.
3 - Am I the only person who doesn't like mojitos? Sadly, one of - I just think they taste like mouthwash.
4 - Do you feel guilty if you run a red light? Or do you just feel like you've gotten one over on the man? I feel terrible. We have red light cameras here so I try not to do it.
5 - If you could only take one kind of vitamin, what would you feel was the most important? I think calcium.
6 - Are you wearing socks right now? No. I HATE wearing socks. So do my kids, and my mom yells at them every time she comes over. Seriously - I never wear them unless I absolutely HAVE TO.
7 - What kind of gas mileage are you getting lately? Um, Jeeps are lots of things, but gas efficient is not one of them - 16. Urg <hides head in shame>
8 - Even though this is the absolute longest Christmas season
possible - i.e., we had the earliest turkey day possible - who among us
already knows that she'll be scrambling last minute?? Duh. Me. Perpetually. I do have a lot of ideas and a spreadsheet going - does that count??
9 - If someone does something nice for you, how do you repay the
favor? Send a thank you note? Make cookies? Or just do nothing and hope
karma will even it out for you? I try to make cookies/brownies/cake/bread, or return a favor. I'm also a big believer in karma.
10 - Are you a liquid or bar soap person? So not a bar soap person - I'm squigged out by germs - but I've gotta admit, I just bought some soap from Haldecraft and it might make me a believer.
11 - What was the last text message you received? Poop. Ok. (My senior in high school daughter, who had just been informed that her tardy to school this morning meant an earlier bedtime in order to facilitate a timely departure the next day.)
I know I wrote about it a while ago, but I was in conversation with two friends yesterday - both guys, btw, although I'm not sure if that has anything to do with, well, anything - and I have thought about nothing else all day other than ADULT FRIENDSHIPS. Specifically, how friendships change when you become an adult, and how they morph further when you have children, and God forbid if you are the first (or the last, let's be fair) in your circle to have children. Or if you have more children than society thinks you should, or if you marry someone whose age is greater than ten years different from yours - your friend circle is going to be totally different. Not bad, necessarily - but different in ways you may not even imagine.
Being a friend is just - weird. I don't know how else to say it. It's opening yourself up to someone else, someone who could very easily say something rude and hurtful and change your outlook on almost everything. It's allowing another person to see the darker side of you. It's overlooking someone else's quirks and failings.
It's coming to a realization that you, yourself, are not perfect.
And I think that we've all been fed a line of cracker crud with regards to friendships. We see friendships as something made of big, white fluffy glittery snowflakes falling from the sky while we ride through the sky on a pink unicorn that farts fluffy cotton candy while I'm wearing my princess tiara and you wear your boa and we never ever disagree. We hold hands and we sing Kumbaya and it's just - perfect.
We see movies and Hallmark cards with friendships that are awesome! and amazing! and the other person is always!there!for!you! and we encourage our children that To make a friend, BE A FRIEND and maybe I'm jaded
but I just don't see that in the world. We confuse acquaintances with friends. We confuse coworkers with confidantes. We think neighbors are interested in the inner workings of our minds and get our feelings hurt when someone says, "How're you doing?" - and doesn't listen to the answer.
And there are some people - Mr. Masses, <cough cough> - who seem to be made of teflon and get along with virtually everyone. Even rude people. Even crabby people. Even people that NO ONE else likes. And I wonder - how are there people like that? People who like everyone, and everyone likes them?
Don't get me wrong - I do have friends. The ones I have, though, are true friends. Friends I can count on. The type that I know have my back when good AND bad happens. Friendships are WORK. And I'm kind of difficult.
Do we let that dissuade us from letting someone in to the innermost sanctum of your very self?
Opinions, thoughts, Girl, you'd better find a shrink, as always, welcomed and appreciated.