Like many people who write, I have several half written, long abandoned, manuscripts. I'm never going to do anything with most of them - although hope springs eternal and I have YET ANOTHER ONE that is DEFIITELY GOING TO BE SOMETHING, YO.
Sorry. Lots of exciting things going on here this week - end of school, awesome awards, shows, etc. It's been all rah-rah-rah here
So, today, I burst everyone's bubble by insisting that they clean their rooms thoroughly AND muck out the back seat of my truck. I'm a real party pooper, I'll tell you what.
Anyway, I thought I'd post bits and pieces of some of my stuff here - mostly for posterity and also because, hello, I need to clean out some memory on this here machine.
So, without further ado, part 1 of an as yet undetermined amount of "Carmen's Not Fit for Publication" pieces. This one was titled "Letters to My Children" and it was, duh, letters I'd written to my children discussing various aspects of life.
Trust people. But be wary.
I say this as I sit on my 41st birthday and ponder what I just encountered. I was invited to go to brunch with a group of friends, people younger than me. I was excited to go and made plans. But when I arrived at the location, they weren’t there. Texting and phone calling assured me that they were coming, just running late, of course they wanted to see me. And it was my birthday, and so I waited. For more than an hour I waited, ordering my food and eating it by myself.
When I left, I saw that group of people, sitting in another area of the restaurant. They’d been there for quite a while, and never let me know.
There’s a reason that I am married to your father. He always makes me, and anyone who comes into contact with him, feel special. He would never pull the above prank on someone. Ever. He thinks of how others might feel in a situation and tries to always make those encounters positive. I try to do the same.
Be with people you trust. If you don’t, don’t be with them. I know, that sounds contrary, but if you think about it, it makes sense. You should be with people who make you feel good about yourself, people who bring you up and make you feel special and important and worthy. If you are with someone that doesn’t, you need to cut them
You are a worthy person. You are a great person. If someone doesn’t see that, it’s their loss, not yours. Those words may be platitudes, but they have a foundation in truth.
When people show you their true selves, believe them. When someone treats you badly – and this will happen, no matter how nice you are, no matter how many kind things you do for them – for people are selfish and only look out for what serves them – remember. Don’t accept it. If someone takes you for granted, don’t continue to work for them. If your efforts aren’t appreciated, don’t try to get the unappreciative to magically transform into someone who cares. In all probability, it will never happen. Well, it might happen – but you don’t need to hang around and wait for that person to grow up and realize their errors.
Respect yourself enough to demand to be treated in a respectful, kind and polite manner. You are a good person and you deserve it.
Eat from the color spectrum. No meal should be all brown – that means no chicken nuggets with French fries and soda. Those are snack foods, and occasional ones at that.
The meals that you eat should have color – remember green and orange are not just colors in the crayon box, but the colors of some of the best tasting foods that also happen to be good for you. Broccoli, carrots, sweet potatoes, kale, spinach – don’t turn up your nose. Find a way to prepare them that you enjoy and eat them.
Eating vegetables not only improves all aspects of your life – longevity, health and well being as a starter – but will help you stay healthier and more energetic.
Eat your vegetables.