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What insight Carmen. You've put into words so much of what I've been feeling lately.

Marie Riemer

Well written my friend. I resonate with this, and i actively have been working on that model of grace that Romans speaks of. I recently had a friend throw judgement right at me. She said, " I am not judging your or telling you how to parent" and proceeded to tell me that my vacation was too long because my special needs daughter was sad and missed me. It made me so angry. I had come back refreshed and renewed and ready to tackle my large family and their needs. Then to get slammed with that. It was frustrating. Thank you for sharing!


Love this, Carmen!


wise words my friend.


You are right everyone has baggage.

Bee Belle

Nice way to turn an old metaphor ("baggage") into something more relatable and meaningful. It's not always negative things in the past that become baggage, either. I have a kid in a middle school that two other kids attended 9 and 13 years ago. When those other kids attended, the policy was that voicemails or emails would be returned within 24 hours. I have been absolutely frustrated this year because my emails were going into a black hole. I finally found someone to tell me that teachers no longer respond to parent emails, only emails directly from the kid, to make the kids more accountable. (OK, would it have killed them to have one teacher reply to just tell me that much?) I was a little grumbly about it because while I'm on board having my son in charge of his academics, it annoyed the heck out of me that I couldn't check for their version of things I heard about at home. Only last week - well into the school year - I spoke to one of the teachers who told me that when my last daughter was in his class 9 years ago, he had about 100 students at a time. Now, he has 190 students at a time. The work load has just made it impossible for teachers to keep up, so while the "kid responsibility" thing is true, it's not the full reason there's no longer communication with parents. Many of the teachers are new and didn't know it any other way. Baggage - all around.


Enjoyed this Carmen! Makes me think of the scriptures in Hebrews: Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us throw off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us! And also the scripture in Galatians: Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted. 2BEAR ONE ANOTHER'S BURDENS, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ. Thanks!


Well written and good timing! I especially liked the line, "coworkers who diminish in order to shine." A very wise person gave me great advice and it was....give what you want to get, basically. Well, what if this doesn't work at all? Baggage, indeed!

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  • Carmen Staicer is a whirlwind of energy and execution, who never sleeps and drinks way too much coffee. She works from home as Social Media Programs Manager for SheKnows, and is the mom to six kids, most of whom play instruments, sing or dance and all of whom are much smarter than she will ever be. In other words, her house is never ever quiet or still. A concentration of asthma, food allergies, spectrum disorders and learning disabilities means that she spends an awful lot of time second guessing herself and Dr. Googling, as well as learning to cook everything the family might like to eat. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, boxing (she has her Black Belt in Muay Thai), sleeping, exploring coffee shops, photography, ballet class and cooking. She excels in being a smart mouth and has her major in sarcasm, with a dual minor in BS studies and avoiding laundry.