I wanted to title this "XX number of things" like they tell you to, in order to make your post SEO friendly and searchable and increase the chances that it might go viral
but I couldn't think that far ahead to determine how many things I might want my kids to know before they (please, God, sometime in the next couple of years) start to move out of the house.
(I have this one kid who takes it as an insult when I say that my focus is for the older ones to move out soon - look, I get it, I understand, it's expensive out there and no one wants to make a mistake, and no, I'm not SHOVING anyone out and yes, it will certainly be different around here when people start to move out, but ultimately, that's my goal as a parent - to raise self sufficient people who can and will be good adults who can survive on their own. Not just because I want the never ending dish stack and laundry pile to go away, or stop hauling in bags and bags of groceries, or paying enormous water and power bills.)
But yesterday, when my adult daughter asked me if I could show her how to put air in her tires - hey, different skills come in different times, and maybe your kid knows this and my kid knows something yours doesn't, it's all cool - I realized that this was one of those THINGS. You know, the adult things. The things that everyone needs to learn how to do before they can be considered an adult.
On this list used to be navigate a map - and I still think that is an important skill - but you may not ever need to look at an actual, honest to God paper map anymore. Everyone has a smart phone and Google has taken over the world and you can get turn by turn directions to any location you might want to visit - but i still think people should learn to read maps.
Definitely this week we determined that everyone needs to be able to put air in a flat tire. I know how to change a tire but I've only done it once and I'm not certain that, should I need to do it, I could - but that's why I have roadside assistance. And there's no harm in that, even though some people might talk down on it.
At one time, I might have said roast a chicken - but, you know, you can buy a rotisserie chicken at any grocery store, at any time. That said - there is something awesome about making your own chicken, and if you buy it on sale, it can be cheaper - so, maybe, this one stays.
What about cutting UP a chicken? That seems like a no brainer - no one does that any more, do they? This is one that I wish I could do.
Parallel parking - I use it all the time, but depending upon where you live, you might never use it.
Balancing a checkbook - well, not many people use an actual physical checkbook anymore - but maybe the knowledge and the skill to know how much money you have at any one time, and how to live inside the parameters of said money is more important. Saving for something you want is a good skill too.
Being organized. That's a big one, and one that has taken me many years to somewhat master - I say somewhat because there are vast swaths in my life that remain chaotic and frenetic - but organization helps in so many ways.
Getting enough sleep. A kid of mine asked me last night, "What, you think I'm a 12 year old? I don't go to sleep at 9:30!" No, maybe not - but maybe you should. Once I used to think that it was cool and hip and adult to be able to stay up until the wee hours, to get by on as little sleep as possible. Now I know that it's not cool to look like a meth addict, sleep helps your body build and repair and saves your skin and helps your immune system and an entire host of things that I never dreamed were important. I also have learned that there is a lot of value to a sleep routine and that your sleep discipline says a lot about your life overall.
Hmmmm, what else would I say is important for my kids to know?
Getting out of the house in an organized fashion, with everything you need for success in the upcoming day.
How to wash clothes, put them away, press them and in general - protect the investment you made in what covers your body.
How to entertain without making everyone around you an irritable mess - still working on this one myself, thanks.
Some things are random and totally dependent upon where you live - how to navigate public transit may be necessary to one and not another.
Getting along with a boss. That's a good one. How to deal with coworkers, that's important too. How to be kind, how to get along with people who think differently than you might, also valid.
How to face adversity without becoming a "Woe is Me" caricature of themselves. Immensely important.
How to order a pizza, pick it up and pay for it - or accept it from a delivery person and calculate a tip - tremendously necessary.
The necessity of washing your bedsheets weekly. The importance of fresh air and sunshine for your mental health.
Taking vitamins helps seal in the cracks in your diet.
How to have fun. Probably tops on the list.
What do you think is important for kids to learn as they transition to young adults and into fully functional and responsible members of society?