I mentioned this on Facebook today, and it has niggled at me all afternoon. It's a concept I fully believe in, and I don't think anyone else even knows what I'm talking about.
Several years ago, we went through a really, really, really lean time. I mean, LEAN. The economy tanked, and with it, all sales industries just - died. I mean, my husband's income was cut more than half, I wasn't working because my kids were small and it was a super difficult time for us.
When you have less money, you donate less - but I still wanted to help out. I realized that in some cases, I was hosed - but there were some places and spaces that needed people as well as money. Ergo, the concept of Time Currency.
We all have the same amount of time in a day, 24 hours. Not one of us has figured out how to expand that, right? (How I wish I could!) How you spend those 24 hours is somewhat up to you - I mean, we have jobs and some of us have kids and all of us have responsibilities (and sadly, this list in no way usually includes a nap)
how you spend that time, though, that spare time? That is your time currency.
Don't spend your time currency on stuff you don't enjoy. Don't spend it on people who make you feel badly about yourself, people who don't reply to your text messages or phone calls. Don't spend your time currency on things or people that don't bring you joy.
I don't have a lot of spare time. I work full time from home. I have six kids - and although one moved out (last month, we didn't discuss this here yet, don't worry, everyone else is as surprised as you!) and one moves out in two months (I know, I know) - and my kids have lessons (multiple) and concerts (in quadruplicate) and I have laundry and cooking and dishes to do
I do have a tiny bit of spare time. I chose to spend it on things that bring me joy.
If I text you, and you never reply? Or if I reach out 17 times to make plans and you blow me off? You are wasting my time currency. I will probably stop reaching out to you. I don't usually do it with a flourish and a grand gesture, but I do it.
In some ways, my time currency is even more valuable than my actual currency - and that's saying something, because, you know, it is the day before payday and I have about $2 in my bank account - but I am trying to make a conscious effort to spend my time doing things I enjoy and spending them with people who make me feel appreciated and valued. After all, I spend much of my life and even more of my time doing things for other people and doing things that bring me no joy.
Once a week, I spend 2 hours setting up, serving and cleaning up a breakfast for the homeless at a church that isn't even my church. It is, in some ways, the best part of my week. I throughly enjoy it - and I am wearing a big baggy apron, my hair yanked up on top of my head, handing out hard boiled eggs and rubbing grit pans. Soooooo glamorous - but don't try to take it away from me.
As often as I can, I help at funerals or funeral receptions.
A couple of times a year, I try to get together with my girlfriends to blow off steam, go dancing, have a good time - to let them know they are important to me.
I go to breakfast (early, before work and after school drop off, which means I totally have to get my shit together first thing when I wake up so that I'm dressed and hair brushed) with two friends at least once a month, and I have one other I try to meet during my lunch break.
How are you spending your time currency? Are you doing the things that fill your soul, or are you frivolously cheating yourself and wasting those minutes and hours?