Definition: any aggregate of people united by ties of descent from a commonancestor, community of customs and traditions, adherence to thesame leaders, etc.
It's been a long time since I've really been anywhere with all of my kids. In fact, the only places that I go with more than 2 or 3 of them are places that, really, everyone knows us - and so, as a larger than typical size family, we've just been - accepted - and no one bats an eye.
A long time ago, I wrote a post for Redbook that was subsequently picked up by Yahoo!Shine called 10 Things You Should Never Say to the Mom of a Big Family - I tried to link it for you, but it appears to have been removed. Drat. It was good, too.
One of the things that has most bothered me about having a big family is the reality that literally everyone you come across wants to comment on the fact that you have OMG so many kids. My circle of reach has shrunk drastically over the past few years, and I just don't engage with as many new people as I used to. Not only that, but my older kids - who still live at home - do their own things and spend most of their time at work or friends houses, so its often just me and those three who cannot yet drive.
But the younger boy recently got his Driver's Permit, OMG, all the feels. Who put this water in my eyes?
This past weekend, I took my four youngest to Whole Foods to buy protein shakes. (We have been having breakfast issues lately. Not me. I never have trouble with eating enough.) While there, we discussed the reality that we can't walk five across in a row, that we need to be responsible for how we present ourselves in public and the clear and certain truth that no one came to the store to see us put on a show.
As we walked down the row, a visibly older woman snarled - there was really no other word to describe her behavior - She brought her whole tribe with her. How horrible.
I was puzzled. There were only four of them. They were smiling and laughing and getting along. No one was fighting, no one was arguing, no tears were being shed. They were - dare I say it - FUN.
Tribe. See the definition above.
But there's also this: a large number of persons, animals, etc, a specific class or group of persons, a family, esp a large one
We went to the end of the row and made our way up the next, just looking, and at the end of the row, we encountered her again. She threw up her hands, and said, "Oh, God, it's the tribe again."
I looked at her and said, "They are only kids. Besides, I left the other half of the family at home." Honest truth, I did. I thought that maybe, she'd smile, but not this lady. She was tough, and she was bitter.
Or, there's this: In the Biblical sense, which was the original one in English, the Latin word translates Greek phyle "race or tribe of men, body of men united by ties ofblood and descent, a clan". Extension to any ethnic group orrace of people is first recorded 1590's.
My 17 year old tossed her hand out in a dramatic fashion, and said, "Excuuuuuuse our tribe!" and she walked by, head held high and proud.
I was really bothered by it - I think that I must have lost all of my "Big Family Toughness" - I was, in years past, very tough and in people's faces and downright militant about Big Family Pride -
but my kids thought it was funny.
And, if they weren't bothered, I didn't need to be either.