So, I have these kids.
And the funny thing about having a group of kids is that everyone ends up in a role.
You know. Someone's the smart one, there's a funny one, one who is a dreamer. A science brain, the one who causes most of the mischief, the one who makes friends easily, the one who needs more time and a slower pace. It happens in every family.
Well, it really happens to every person, regardless of family size or even if you are a family - I mean, think about the people you work with, worship with, the moms in playgroup or the school. It happens at work - there's the joker, the one who takes everything seriously, the one who mothers everyone, the one who -
well, you know.
But the thing about typecasting is that you start to expect that behavior from that person.
And what happens if that person suddenly - isn't the friendly one, isn't the studious one, someone forgets to pick up a bill and suddenly isn't the one who you can rely on, the one who always screws up suddenly does the right thing?
I had a conversation with a kid yesterday, a kid who literally everyone has always thought of as uber friendly and super outgoing, and this kid was in hysterics because this kid (sorry, awkward sentence structure, sparing feelings over here by not pointing fingers) insisted that no one in the WORLD had as tough of a time making friends and this individual does.
Yeah, the one the ENTIRE family would say the exact opposite of
and it got me to wondering
if people in your family think of you as one way
are you really that way, or do you become that way based on years and years of hearing it?
And, flip side - if you hear something about yourself for years and years, will you ever believe it? Will you grow into the constant diatribe of you are a narcissist and all you ever talk about is yourself by really and truly becoming a narcissist or will you create a better persona?